Phew! I just surprised myself with that title. But, seriously ladies, what’s worse than a no-support bra?
So let’s get real. Your body, even more specifically, your boobs, need good support, so what are we willing to do to go get it? We bra shop and maybe even spend the extra money to get a good one. We complain to others about how awful it is having to wear bras to support those stinkin’ boobs. Then we listen as our friends tell us, “Oooo I know! I found one once that……and it was sooo much better….maybe you could try….”
You know what I’m talking about.
So if our bodies and our boobs need good support, why doesn’t the same thing apply to our minds and emotional state? How come we’re not finding good support for the most complex, intriguing, delicate, yet so vitally important thing we have?
The stresses of life, motherhood, jobs, money, relationships, home-life, self, heck, even the weather, all contribute to our emotional well-being. I think that as women, the most common thing that weigh us down is motherhood, relationships, and ourselves – all in varying degrees.
So, the question is, how do we find support? Or better yet, good support?
First, look to your spouse or significant other. There is a reason they are your “other half”. They love you, they want to support you, and they want you to feel happy and cared for. Communication is key.
Next, look to your family. As parents ourselves, we know that we would do absolutely anything to support our own children; I believe it’s the same with our own parents. Siblings offer great support and insight, because they are like you, they grew up with you, and most often times are in similar situations.
Friends are another incredible support system. I have been blessed to have amazing neighbors and friends that I bond well with. We understand each other, and as moms we often have the same frustrations.
Now I understand that everyone has different views and beliefs in religion and God, but I cannot tell you how often I have turned to my Heavenly Father for the support I need. Clergy, religion, and God can be an amazing support – prayer, Sunday worship, scriptures, or even hymns and other songs keep my spirits lifted. I have a firm testimony that God and our religion can play a vital role in our good support system.
Support groups are something I never really thought about until I felt I needed one. Or two. Or three. Or four. You can find support groups that cater to your specific situation anywhere, and even more easily now that the internet is so commonplace. Check Facebook, blogs, websites, hospitals, churches, and more – they are there and they are wonderful. I’m in plenty of support groups for Pediatric Stroke and I cannot tell you how much I have learned, and have been comforted by families and moms in my same situation.
This last “good support” system is one that you probably didn’t \think of right off the bat.
You can be your own support system.
“Yeah, right, Kellie, I can’t do that! I’m on the verge of an emotional breakdown here!”
Oh, friends, I feel ya. I’ve been there, done that, SO many times. At these times when I’m asking myself why, how come, why me, I don’t know, blah blah, I have to consciously turn my thoughts around. Now I’m not saying I’m a pro – far from it! But I do know that having positive thoughts and actions can be incredibly powerful. You can do it. Even if it’s hard. Find it deep within to support yourself.
Thoughts and actions aren’t the only way that you can support yourself, though. Find an outlet. I have recently been struggling in trying to find what my outlet actually is now, but the more I think, the more I ponder, the more I try, I am slowly – slowly, but surely – finding it and I feel like taking the time for me is going to end up being even more supportive than I thought.
And hey, if none of those seem to be working for you, I’m here! And so are all the other “Moms Who Know” on this incredible support system (www.amomknows.com).
So whether it’s finding a good supporting bra for those obnoxious boobs, or a finding good support system for your struggles, support is the common word here. With good support, you will be amazed at what life can feel like.